“You never know how much you really believe anything until it’s truth of falsehood becomes a matter of life and death to you. It is easy to say you believe a rope to be strong and sound as long as you are merely using to cord a box. But suppose you had to hang by that rope over a precipice,wouldn’t you then first discover how much you really trusted it?”
C. S. Lewis
Trust is something believed to be true. Our holding power to trust depends upon our acceptance of the other persons ability to do good or right. The only trust that never fails is the one that a child shares with the mother. Trust is as indispensable as food and water to living beings on this planet. It is on thing we cling on to like an ivy. The most important plug in for interchange of ideas is trust. The underlying assumption of any connection or fellowship is trust. Without it we would be moving around with baggages, fearing to reveal the true us. Our dependence on our wisdom, perception and warmth makes the real difference. The more we rely on these inner senses, easier it becomes to trust. Trusting does not come easy as we are faint hearted. We dread to be forsaken, laid bare and put down. We often marvel at the trapeze artists who soar through the space catching the flying swing from each other, risking their lives ; but they do it with ease because they simply trust their counterparts at the other end. Unkept promises and sometimes well intentioned lie is enough to invoke distrust. To enhance the ability to trust we need to count on ourselves first. We too are here to do something right just as we expect of others. To trust we need to get down to brass tacks. It cannot be erected on a figment of imagination. It requires something concrete. It’s a gamble. Here you pawn your time, money and even life at times. Inspite of this trust may never win. It is simply about your courage to bet bottom dollar on something or someone.
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” – Brene BrownLife is certainly about the choices we make. For us it is also about being critical of our wrong choices and beating ourselves. It is for most part about being in good books and garnering praise. Until one fine day the castles we built in air collapse and we are one on one with the very fear we were running away from. Vulnerability always has been understood as weakness though otherwise. Entering uncharted territory always sparks fear but someday each one of us has to brave the terrain, though the path ahead is no walk in the park. To know the taste, we actually need to unwrap the product and bite into it. Vulnerability is one such opportunity to unwrap our soul. It is our chance to let down our guard and making good our choices. It is a testament of our true strength.
The protective armor built around us, seemingly to protect us from pain and suffering is the very cause of our strife as it separates us from our authentic self.Awareness of it is a big step towards freedom. Letting go self-armoring is necessary for happiness and well-being. It is our tendency to re-treat behind a wall whenever we feel threatened, but we need to take the bull by it’s horn.
Letting down our armor lets us choose the kind of people we need to have around us. It is likely that when we are vulnerable we might be tempted to cozy up to whoever crosses our path but since we are not expecting anything we do make it right.It is hard to demonstrate compassion for the struggles in other people. Since we are able to reveal our deepest and darkest secrets when we are vulnerable, we become more emphatic.When we break the shackles that we are tethered to through out our life, that we are able to bring in true light of peace into our lives.
We can choose to view a failure as a learning opportunity rather than as a catastrophe. The cloak that we had around us was not at all comfortable but very rigid and confining. To make that real connection we have to be willing to be seen. Letting down the guard is enjoying the emotion that it implies that we are open , adaptable and emphatic. Only by accepting our true nature at our deepest core level as emotional vulnerable beings we are able to tap our resilient inner strength. If we move through life mistaking vulnerability for weakness, we strike the fruition of the very experiences we long for. The love, joy, passion and freedom painfully fall at our feet and appear out of reach. Vulnerability is a facade built by fear and needs to be shed to allow our true self to shine through and experience the sharp edges of lives.